Updated: Jan 19
Are you happy living it?
You and I, we all have a story which we believe is ours. Career goals, things we want to achieve, the partner we want to be with and so much more. The story lives in our mind and influences the decisions we make, how we behave, what we do and don’t do. But where did the story come from, did we make a conscious decision one day to invent it? Is it a product of the childhood dreams of who we wanted to become? How much of that story is really what we want in our life and how much was contributed from the people around us - our parents, who wanted us to do well in school, college, get married, have kids; the expectations of our friends and the wishes of our significant other. Is living your story taking a huge amount of effort? Some people push themselves very hard, use drugs of all kinds to have the energy or quiet the mind to be able to perform or simply ‘survive’ another day of their life. Is it really their story they are living or one that has been written for them? Unbeknownst to us, all the people that influenced us and experiences we lived through shape our thinking. Don’t you sometimes hear the voice of our mother or father in your mind? I did. It took me a long time to notice and get rid of the patterns that my parents instilled in me. They didn’t do it on purpose, I didn’t have a say. I was a little sponge simply absorbing the messages. The patterns they handed down were not good or positive for me, they distorted the real me and held me back in every way.
The physical and emotional experiences, the disappointments, the pains, the disillusions we go through in life leave their mark. We forget they are there, fail to notice them, but they don't simply go away. They mold and shape our Physical Intelligence, the patterns in our unconscious that color every thought, decision and action we take. Sometimes we feel little glimpses of these patterns, but many of us are quick to cover them up or seek a mental escape to not have to deal with them. I started to re-write my story when I had the chance to really understand what patterns - emotional, mental and physical - were ruling my thinking and able to let the things go that held me back. Everything I let go helped me take a step forward - in understanding and defining who I really am, my place and my journey in this lifetime. What really surprised me is how much my life has changed and how much happiness and satisfaction these changes have brought about. Wintertime is the time to slow down and reflect on our lives. I invite you to reflect on YOUR STORY. Really give some thought, go out in nature and experience how it feels for you. Determine if you really own it and if it makes you happy.
Wishing you a wonderful holiday season!
Should you find in your reflections that you’d like to explore your true story please get in touch.
About the Author
Dr. Martina Wagner is the cofounder of ArtesHumanis – a boutique executive development firm that helps individuals and companies—from start-ups to the Fortune 100 companies—succeed by enhancing performance and improving effectiveness of their leaders and teams.
To find out how you can tap into your Physical Intelligence to take active control of your mind, change limiting patterns and enhance your wellbeing check out "An Introduction to Physical Intelligence" available on Amazon